Part of me wanted to giggle, Out of 100 times, I have been there 99 times and this one time that I couldn't, I was the bad guy? Or in this case, the bad girl.
What it made me do was question the worth of this "friendship" to me. Do I really need someone in my life who takes and rarely gives?
How often do you find yourself lending a shoulder or a hand to someone who always seems to be
emotionally needy? In those moments, when you check-out for a few breaths and think to yourself "i'm never going to get these minutes back", do you ever want to hit the pause button and say "dude, get a grip, the world cannot revolve around you". It happens to the best of us.
Personally, for me anyway, my conduct with a person lays solely on their treatment of me. I don't suspend reality and buy into everything that I hear. I let my opinion rest only on my personal interaction with a person and I will treat you accordingly. If however, I find that I am being taken advantage of, needless-to-say, I will more than likely let a friendship go.
In cases where you find yourself rescuing an emotionally needy person, you're really only enabling them to use you as a crutch. I realized that I can sometimes be a crutch and not a friend. A friend will tell you when it's time to get over yourself, while a crutch will run to your aid and think that they have helped you.
In closing, I'm just going to say that I now recognize my "crutchy" and enabling behavior and yes, it took a "needy" person to complain about me in order to make me see it. Granted, that helps me more than it will help the needy but the important thing is that I have learned something that I will use as a tool going forward.
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